I don’t know Dr. Simone Whitmore, her husband, or the intricacies of their marriage. When the OBGYN and Married 2 Medicine star announced on the show that she “rarely” gave her man head, it started a very interesting debate amongst viewers and, well, every man and woman who has given or received oral sex. Dr. Whitmore, who has been married to her husband for 18 years, began receiving unsolicited relationship advice from strangers on the internet who flooded the comment sections of articles to reiterate the tired phrase, “what you won’t do, another woman will.” Suddenly, every damn person (including people who have trouble getting married and starting a family in SIMS 2, much less real life) felt that they knew the key to “fixing” the sexual component of her relationship.
My thoughts on her individual relationship are simply this: Do what makes YOU and YOUR MAN happy. If her husband likes getting blow jobs every solar eclipse, then who in the hell am I to tell him or her that they are wrong? Sex is always about mutual satisfaction, so if they’ve been enjoying their sex for 18 years, then kudos to them. Now, the REAL problem doesn’t lie with Dr. Whitmore’s actions, it’s about her advice for other women. Her comments missed the mark on what sex means to many married men.
When a man loves a woman enough to get on his bended knee and propose that they spend the rest of their lives together, he is expecting they will now be officially responsible for maintaining their shared emotional, mental, spiritual and physical connections. To reiterate a point I’ve made a million times, most men don’t exhibit the full scope of their emotions verbally, or by writing limericks, or some other action. Many men express the depths of their love for their woman through making love.