Recently I participated in a relationship panel discussion in which a few men and I were asked very direct questions about sex and dating by a room full of women. The first question to kick the night off was: “Is there such thing as a perfect man?” Instantly, the other women in the room began to roll their eyes hard, as if there was a foregone conclusion. In fact, I remember one woman audibly laughing like Nelson on “The Simpsons.” The men on the panel gave answers that denied the existence of a perfect man in some form or the other. Since I was the last to answer, I shocked most of the people in the room by simply stating, “Yes, the perfect man does exist.”
Before I could even begin defending my stance, the backlash came quick, fast, and very harsh. I followed up my seemingly controversial point with a reality that is far too often overlooked when we talk about perfection and relationships — being a perfect partner is NOT about being flawless. It’s about being perfectly compatible with the person you are dating. Perfection in love does NOT exclude having shortcomings. It’s about achieving true harmony with someone else mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.