A very famous celebrity friend told me that she feels comfortable sharing her deepest feelings with the public and her fans but not with her husband.
My first reaction was…huh? But then after a while this made perfect sense to me.
Her fans and the general public could not hurt her…well yes, the media can hurt, but not to the core. The media and strangers don’t touch your soul that way that a friend, a lover, or a family member touches your soul.
Who do you trust?
When you think about the people in your life who you trust, also think about why you trust them. Also, think about whether or not, based on your own personal definition of trust, they should trust you. Are you trustworthy? There is an old saying that people who don’t trust others are not to be trusted.
When I think about the people in my life whom I trust, and thank God there are many, the primary reason why I trust them is because I know that they love me. How they love me is why I trust them. They love me with their senses. They don’t just listen to me when I speak, they hear me. They don’t just look at me, they see me. They see my vulnerability and my humanity. They don’t just touch me, they hug me and hold me. They know who I am, the good, the bad, and the ugly, and they still bask in the glorious paradox that I am.
Think about your relationship to trust. Think about the people in your life whom you trust and those you don’t. Think about the reasons you do or don’t trust them, and ask yourself if the relationship needs work, or if it’s time to simply let go. Think about whether or not you are trustworthy and how this affects your reality, those who love you, and your experience on this earth.
Remember, you are amazing and you have power. Design your life, design the people in your life, and design your circle of trust.
Love and Respect,
*Wendy is an entertainment attorney and the Director of the Multicultural Division of the executive life coaching company the Handel Group. Find her at www.handelgroup.com or on twitter @IamWendyCredle