Remember the days when you and your boyfriend had the same friends and you all hung out after school? Everyone was in the group – old flames, potential new flames, close friends, and even that one guy that kind of creeped you out.
Back when we were young, relationships were simple and everyone knew who was dating whom. This was known because not only was Susie Q wearing Termell’s letterman jacket, but they also had matching tennis shoes. And, if he was raised correctly, he was carrying her books to class. When the break up happened (as was a frequent occurrence in high school relationships) everyone knew about it an hour after it happened and there was typically reconciliation the next day.
During that interim period everyone who stood by the wayside during the relationship, male and female, exes and new prospects, would try their hand – some even succeeded and a new union formed or a former situation rekindled. Every day everyone had to sit together in class, assembly, or the periodic pep rally – the possibility of forced interaction was commonplace due to the environment. Interaction with exes was possible but social dynamics made it improbable for communication to occur without the news traveling through the grapevine and into your relationship.
After we received our diplomas, we elevated to the dynamics of undergraduate life, which, in essence, is simply a larger version of high school. The only difference was, depending on your institution of choice, the playing field was much larger and there was less of a chance that you had to see your boyfriend or girlfriend, much less your exes. There was less of a chance that people knew your business and the integrity and boundaries of your relationship dynamics was based on your personal convictions and morals rather than the knowledge (or fear for some) that your business would come to light.