Did you know you can buy condoms at the 99 cent store? Did you know there are condoms for males and females to wear? Did you know you can order them online? Did you know that condoms are the number one way to effectively protect you and your partner during a sexual encounter from STDs, including AIDS and HIV? So, if you are nodding your head and saying, “Yes, yes, I already know all of this,” then I have one question for you: Why the hell are you not consistently using condoms with your partners?!!!
A man in Missouri was recently arrested and charged with purposely infecting people with HIV. He was aware of his status and upon learning of it, slept with, according to him, over 300 people without the use of a condom and without disclosing his HIV status. He is an unassuming guy who worked at the local grocery store in a small town who would probably never even catch your attention — not the “type” that you’d suspect of intentionally infecting others with HIV. Yet, knowingly having unprotected sex while HIV-positive is a crime and happens more times than you know. Does this scare you because I hope it does?
There are so many reasons this story angers me, but the main reason is that this man did not rape or force anyone to have unprotected sex with him. All of his partners were willing participants and are now in danger of carrying and spreading a potentially deadly disease to others, as well. My anger is strong … my anger is overwhelmingly abundant when I read these stories because all it would have taken was one person to ask, “Do you know your status?” or “Let’s go get tested together.” I know this is not always an easy step to take … Trust me, I’ve been there, but it is a life-changing or lifesaving necessity.
Sex is amazing. Sex is natural. Sex can be a spiritual connection between two people in love or a lustful experience between two people just hooking up … and sex can be deadly. When we meet someone we like we have an instant attraction and often that attraction leads to intercourse or some form of sexual intimacy, right? We don’t see our partners as unclean, and we choose to believe what they tell us about their past because we have an emotional connection to them. Let me just say that we all lie. You’re nodding your head in agreement right now, or saying to yourself, “I don’t! I told my boyfriend everything about my past and I know my status!” Well, good for you but have you seen his? I mean seen, as in, the results letter, email, or form your partner was given from their doctor? Then no, you don’t know their status.