Dating someone new is fun, scary, nerve-racking, and mysterious all at the same time. It’s fun to be excited about a new person in your life. It’s also scary to let your guard down and be vulnerable, and I don’t know about you, but I love it when a new special someone gives me butterflies in my stomach.
But, then there is the mysterious part … Most times we are so busy enjoying the newness, butterflies, rainbows, and unicorns that have suddenly appeared in our lives along with this new person, that we may not notice some other issues. One major issue I have dealt with in relationships past is: Is he really over his ex?
An ex-boyfriend of mine owned a cat. Let’s just say that besides being deathly allergic to them…I just do not like them in general. Yeah, OK, some of you may have just gotten pissed off, but, hey, I like dogs; don’t judge me! But I digress … So, my ex had a cat and one night my throat closed up and I could barely breathe from said cat, so he promised to vacuum and keep the cat in another room any time I came over. While I did not like the whole “guy with a cat” thing, I did really like him and I tried to deal with the cat. One night while discussing our pasts he tells me that the cat is actually his ex-girlfriend’s cat that he inherited after the break-up. Here is my issue with this scenario … OK, well here is my second or third issue with this scenario. Firefighter (did I forget to mention that we will be referring to him as firefighter? Sorry, we will be calling him Firefighter because as you all know I don’t use names unless I have been given permission) really, really, loved his cat. But I wanted Firefighter to really, really love me, and every time I looked at that cat I saw the life he had before me with someone else.