Whenever I have conversations with my single lady friends, at some point in the night the discussion will inevitably head down the path of inquiring what men truly want in relationships. And to be honest, it’s a fair question. There are so many blogs, magazines, TV shows, and books attempting to answer this question, yet they are failing so miserably that many women are left searching for an all-inclusive answer — that doesn’t exist. I’m definitely not going to act as if I have some magical solution to this query, but, as a man, I will let women know one thing I’m definitely sure of: No matter how great you are in bed, good sex alone won’t make a man elevate your status to wife, if he didn’t see you as that before you got it in.
Whenever I talk about relationships with my homegirls, they put far too high of a premium on how much men truly care about sex. Now I’m not saying that sex isn’t important to most men, but I’m definitely stating that sex is never the deciding factor on what constitutes high-quality in a potential life partner. It doesn’t matter if that man is a virgin who’s saving himself for marriage, or if he’s the biggest player in the city, both types of men will never use sex as a sole measure of their future wife’s worth.
Why you ask?
Because your vagina is NOT what makes you special.