When I thought of the man I would one day settle down with, I imagined someone who was like an action star, Think Bruce Willis, The Rock, Tom Cruise, free Wesley Snipes–macho, slick talking and strong with a big heart. He also had to be a man who was fearless and would go to the ends of the earth to protect me and ours. While this image was at the back of my mind, I kept running into men who did not quite fit this description. They definitely had manly physical attributes; had the slick talking down to a science but when it came time to become a hero, they did not have it.
They did not have the gumption, the wits, the speeding bullet mentality to step up and save me. They sure as heck talked about saving me though! Let’s get back to reality for a minute, I’ve never had a crime lord hold me hostage at an abandoned warehouse, whispering ill will into my ears. But I know there were times that I felt like I was in danger or that I had hit a stumbling block in life and could not turn to the man in my life for a word of comfort or encouragement or perhaps, even a hug.