by Tracy Clayton
Welcome to installment two of my series of ruminations on love and relationships. In case you missed it, I am now a relationship expert! I got my degree at DeVry, where I minored in TV/VCR repair.
This week’s question: What is the difference between having sex and making love?
The folks over at The Love Project asked random passers-by their thoughts on this very same topic. Watch.
Maybe the first question to ask is if there’s even a difference between the two to begin with. The answer here is yes; absolutely. It seems that a lot of people define that difference in terms of what you do, physically, with you partner while doing the horizontal Harlem shake in the bedroom. Stereotypically, making love is sweet, right? It’s emotional. It is slow, soft, and intimate. Your partner is lavished with kisses as Luther Vandross croons softly to you both; hands are held, eye contact is made. Your hearts beat in rhythm and sweat beads up on your bodies in the shape of joined wedding rings. So beautiful. So tender.