Courtesy of EBONY.com
Cheating is a polarizing subject that from my experience, people (self-included) seem to have strongly adverse reactions to until it actually happens to them. Most people seem to feel that cheating is an automatic deal breaker, or judge people who decide to stay with a philanderer. I used to be part of that crew until I took a class on the psychology of black relationships when I was in college. Admittedly, I barely remember most of what I learned in that class, but of the few things that I did retain the part about infidelity was fascinating because it made me change my perspective. I realized that cheating isn’t as black and white as folks think and that people cheat for several different reasons.
Infidelity is obviously a breach of trust and a potential risk to a lover’s health but there are other variables to consider when deciding whether to stay with a wandering partner or not. It has never happened to me, as far as I know, and though I am a cynic I don’t believe that everyone does it. I understand that sometimes you can be staunchly for or against a hypothetical scenario but life likes to improvise and when that happens, your reaction may surprise or enlighten you. The hubby and I had a discussion about cheating before we were married (it was just a casual conversation that came up), and were surprisingly on the same page. Our conclusion was that it wouldn’t be an automatic deal breaker for our marriage. Here’s why: