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I’m not the biggest sports fan, but dating my first true sport’s fanatic is learning me a thing or two. One show that I’ve always enjoyed watching, even before my new-found interests, is HBO’s “Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel” -where Gumbel, longtime media personality and awesome examiner, provides an intimate gaze into the lives of our favorite sportsmen and women. In a recent interview with gorgeous, famed track star (and near winner of the gold in the 2008 Olympics) Lori “Lolo” Jones, the stellar athlete opened up about how difficult it is to maintain a long term relationship because, at twenty-nine, she is a virgin and plans to maintain her virginity until she marries.
I immediately thought “bravo, good for her”, when she unapologetically made that statement. As much as I advocate that women should explore their sexual selves, I equally uphold women who steer their own ships when deciding who and when to sex- even if that means not sexing at all. A woman who chooses not to have sex is on equal footing with a woman who chooses to have loads of sex, in my opinion, because both women understand that their sexual agency should only be determined and explored by them- which is the exact opposite of how we are socialized to think as women and of women.