Some people are born with the optimistic-recovery gene. They can take any situation — no matter how unpleasant — and immediately convert it to a positive. Most folks aren’t like that, self included. I definitely have my moments.
When you start thinking about the lessons learned and how you’re gonna be a better person or partner in the future, you’re on your way to dating again. You’re no longer focused on what you lost or what could’ve been, which means you’re allowing that bond to productively unravel. You’re free to make someone else even happier.