He was jailed on assault and weapons charges. The women, one of whom suffered a fractured skull, a broken arm, and remains hospitalized, were charged with criminal trespassing, menacing and disorderly conduct.
I get the argument that he’s a man who viciously beat two women, persons of the smaller, physically weaker sex. Every part of my woman-power mantra wants me to shout, “He is wrong! Wrong! Wrong!” But everything in my common sense, asks, “What did you want that man to do?”
If anyone— male or female— has the cajones (I’m saying, she told him to ‘suck her d***!’) to threaten someone, slap them, and then hop a counter to get at them, you get whatever it is they feel like giving back that day. You can’t be an instigator of violence, then dictate how someone responds to your violence. Life isn’t fair. Fighting isn’t either.
Did he go overboard? Perhaps. Some have blamed his “extreme” reaction on the skewed values and defense mechanisms he picked up while spending his twenties locked up. Could be. Still, I, a product of the suburbs who’s never seen the inside of jail cell, can’t say with any conviction that I would not have done the same exact thing.
Maybe that means I need anger management. Maybe Rayon McIntosh needs some too. But what he doesn’t need in his life right now? To be locked up for self-defense.
Demetria L. Lucas is the author of “A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life” (Atria) in stores now. Follow her on Twitter at @abelleinbk and check out abelleinbrooklyn.com.