A few days ago, The Married Man at Hello Beautiful wrote a charming little piece entitled “5 Ways to Keep Your Man From Cheating.” As soon as I read the title, I rolled my eyes. Like, literally. I plucked my eyes out of my head, cupped them in my hand, and shook them up like they were sunflower seeds because the standard eye roll just wasn’t dramatic enough. I don’t know about you all, but I’m weary of men lecturing women on how to behave in relationships and teaching them how to not screw it up (as if every failed relationship is a woman’s fault). So, I have a few ideas, too, and I’d like to take you all through them in a little piece I’d like to call “5 Reasons That This Advice Doesn’t Make Any Sense“:
1. “Give him some good love.” Come on, now. A jerk is a jerk is a jerk. You can get up before the sun, make sure your hair and makeup are perfect, butcher your own hogs and bake your own bread for breakfast, feed it to your man, go to work, get a promotion, come home, clean the house, pluck a chicken for dinner, feed it to him again, birth three babies, get them ready for bed, blow his mind in the bedroom, write him a love poem, and read it to him while rubbing his feet every night while wearing stilettos, and guess what. If he wants to cheat, he’ll cheat anyway. He’d probably say your shoes were the wrong color. How insensitive of you.
While its very true that one should only blame themselves for their ill-behavior…don’t put so much credit on how men are the liars and cheaters. Understand that the vast number men are reactionary beings. We only do things based off of whatever stimulated us to do it and not beforehand. Our emotions don’t rule us. Most men simply don’t cheat on a woman they are with on a whim..we generally have to have reason to.
Women are just as capable of lying and cheating and do so, just as often. In the last 3 years, I’ve seen more intentionally bad behavior from the ladies than I have the men in matters of dealing with the opposite sex. Being specific, this is more among the singles crowd though. I’ve had a woman straight up YELL at me “who the f*** are YOUUU?!” when I wasn’t even talking to her or about her. I was having a nice discussion with her friend and she flipped. Women can snap like that and know they can get away with it because we can’t hurt ‘em. Not to mention another time having a conversation with a girl about people being rude and what happens? She darts off for her friends without even saying so much as an “excuse me for a moment”. It seems that men and women are equally bad at dating these days….so where does the cycle end? It ends when a person is willing to GIVE love unconditionally and in its most raw form. To constantly be in a position to love all the time and keep it there. If its not reciprocated, well…you put in what you had and you were upfront about it. Move on and continue to love others no matter how much you feel you’ve been damaged.
If you want the short of it, men care about TWO things–That you are physically attractive and that you aren’t displaying an abrasive/jarring vibe in his company. That’s it. It doesn’t need a book to understand it, those two things cover ALL the bases. If a man STILL wants to cheat then well, he probably wasn’t into you much anyways..he just miscalculated his initial interest and stayed longer than he felt he should have. Move on.
There is only ONE person who can stop a man from cheating?
Wanna know who that person is?
THE MAN
What a woman does (or does not) do cannot make a man cheat.
He has his own mind and he alone is responsible for his actions and choices in life.
Period.
He can decide not to cheat OR he can decide to cheat.
Just another bullsh*t article written by a man (or a stupid woman) to justify a man’s very bad disgusting and often dangerous behaviors (cheating and lying) which spread diseases, cause unplanned pregnancies and destroy marriages and families all in the name of LUST
Men, do better!
Favorite line “Take that plastic off the sofa, girl.” lol
Thank you! I’m so tired of these obnoxious “how to get/keep a man” articles. This was a hilariously accurate takedown :-)
Why I love the internet: for every trite, ridiculous, ass-backwards “ladies, here’s how to be perfect” guide, there are witty rebuttals like this that bring everyone back to reality.
Oh if I could be this witty! Love it!
Funniest article I have read in a long time! Good stuff!
I couldn’t agree with you (author) more.