Oh, the irony. God knows that I would rather stick a hot poker in my eye than make my first editorial contribution to UPTOWN be for an issue about weddings. But if there is one thing I know about, it’s fabulous weddings.
My marriage may have ended in divorce, but my wedding was fierce!
Three matrons of honor, 12 bridesmaids, four flower girls, and six footmen to carry my 27-foot-long Reem Acra custom crystallized star cathedral-length veil. The four-day extravaganza culminated in a romantic ceremony in a historic church bathed in flowers, Patti LaBelle singing, a white-tie dinner for 450 guests, and the bride and groom riding off into the night down Park Avenue. My wedding was the stuff of dreams, a fantasy fit for Cinderella and her Prince Charming.
And I would have traded it all for a solid, stable, and emotionally connected marriage that lasted a lifetime.
No question, my wedding was the fulfillment of every little girl’s fantasy. However, little girls grow up, wedding dresses get packed away, and grown women are left to navigate marriage, with all its ups, downs, twists, and turns. So before you get your knickers in a knot over place settings, gift registries, and guest lists, you might want to get a good read on how you and your future spouse each handle the realities of life. You want your marriage to last longer than it takes to plan your wedding. Ask yourself these five questions…
Would you be interested in seeing an article from our soon-to-be released book:
“The Four Steps To A Successful Marriage”
see: http://www.thefoursteps.org
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Sam Krause
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How can you be so full of your self STAR. I have watch you over the years destroy your self with your action and mouth.. yes Because you got a college education and Law degree, you still lack respect for people. You are only focus on SELF Gain. When things go wrong you are so quick to put anyone under the BUS. YOUR marriage failed because you was too self centered. YOU never image you could be who GOD bless you to be, instead you focus on taking all the praise. YES I am a professional Black, MArried, children, success business and LOVES the lord. Stop making emergies and PRay
Who’s fooling who ? How you played the game on national tv & you have the nerve to trash Nene . You should have been FIRED 3 weeks before but at least you have money & a college education .You & Nene still don’t get it . May GOD Bless the both of you !!!
Hello Star,
So happy to see things are going well for you. I enjoyed reading Wedding vs. Marriage. My husband and I have been married for twenty years. The majority of those years have been great, but yes it has been tested. We were forced to evaluate why we started this journey and if we wanted to continue the road together. I had to take a long look at myself and the person I chose to spend eternity with. I know couples go thru things, but I had no idea the amount of work and time it takes to make things right. I am blessed that things are going in the right direction. We still have our days, but most importantly we are committed to making this marriage work. We have promised to love, honor, respect and trust each other forever more.
Hi Star!
Absolutely love love love you!!!…I just want to say that you have hit the nail on the head with this article..I have been happily married to my King for 8 years and yes as a little girl I dreamed of a wedding just like yours, if not more…After kissing a few frogs, my King was sent to me, and we made a decision together that we would go to the courthouse and get married and not have an over the top wedding that really would be for the guest to have their opinions about..If I had to trade in the love of this good strong supportive Black man that the Creator has blessed me with, I pass..For me it was not about having the grandest wedding, but more about having a greater love to share my life with and build a foundation with…Also Star, I can’t wait to see you on Celebrity Apprentice, and I hope you told that NeNe to go kick rocks, but I’m really not worried about you when it comes to her because she’s not even on your level, and clearly a woman of your stature will not stoop(wink wink)…Keep up the good work and thank you for always keeping it real…You truly are a brightly shining Star!
Love ya. Smart smart smart. Can’t wait for The Apprentice. I am just irritated that you have to work with that moron an low life, Nene. She is already throwing insults your way in the press, I have not hear you say anything. Please ignore her, for she cannot hol a candle to you, EVER!!
Star,
I have always admired you. Your honesty in your message about marriage is dead on. I have been married for 15years to a wonderful man. We had 30 people at our wedding, and it was the most beautiful wedding that I have ever been to.
Thanks for sharing, and congratulations on your new assignment. I’m happy that you’re at UPTOWN.